(LONG POST) Thursday, July 7th--Nate's sister, Wendy, passed away today. She was 1 month away from turning 38. This was so unexpected and so very tragic. Wendy has had health problems for quite some time. Like Brady, she also suffered with Type 1 Diabetes. It was difficult for her to manage and with that disease came many other problems with her body. In the last several years, it seemed she had many close calls, spending time in the hospital, but always managed to get better.
She's been suffering for a while from quite a severe UTI. On top of that she burned her feet a week ago, while vacationing in San Francisco (a place she loved dearly). She had little to no feeling in her feet so she didn't realize they were being burned while she had the rental car heater on for a while, to get warm. It seemed like the burns only made her more vulnerable to infection.
Yesterday, she was acting quite strange, very sleepy and incoherent at times. Luckily, Nate's parents live quite close to her so her dad checked on her a few times throughout the day. Later in the afternoon, dad made the decision she had to go to the hospital. She didn't want to but agreed to anyway. He called Nate's other sister, Jenny, to come help him get her to the hospital. She also lives close by. They managed to get her down the stairs of her townhome and within minutes she was unresponsive and appeared to have passed away. Jenny called 911. The paramedics got her stabilized and rushed her to the closest hospital, Riverton. Riverton felt she would do better at the larger, more advanced hospital in Murray. Fortunately, Nate's brother, Dustin, works at this hospital. She was admitted to the ICU with a 50/50 chance of living.
Today, I called Jenny and told her I wanted to be with her and comfort her. She asked if I would take her to the hospital to see Wendy. She worried Wendy might not make it, especially after what she witnessed yesterday. We got to the hospital and Wendy was hooked to several monitors, breathing tube, multiple IV's. She was sedated but seemed to understand and be able to slightly respond to us by nodding. Dan & Rosemary had been with her most of the day. Shortly after Jenny and I got there, her ICU doctor came. We stepped outside of her room to hear what he had to say. Things were grim, there was no sugar-coating. He had tried several different blood pressure medications to increase her blood pressure with no success. They couldn't keep her blood sugars above 50 (very low!). We knew what it meant. Jenny and I got on our cell phones and started calling the family. Everyone needed to know what was going on and decide if they wanted to come say "good-bye". Nate was working from home and was able to keep an eye on the kids so I could be with Jenny. I told him to come and felt he should bring the kids too. Within an hour, almost everyone was there. While we waited for everyone to arrive, a panel of doctors met with the family already there. I stayed in the lobby waiting for family. Wendy's wishes were always "Do Not Resuscitate". The doctors took the family into her room and asked if she wished to be disconnected from everything (by now, her body was not functioning on it's own at all). She shook her head yes.
With most of the family now in the hospital and in her ICU room, the nurse slowly began to turn off medications and monitors. The first medication to be turned off was the sedative. It allowed her to be more coherent. She demanded the breathing tube come out. She couldn't talk but could mouth words. Much of what she was trying to say, sadly, didn't make sense. I was able to make out "I know this is painful" and "I love you". We all said comforting words to her, how much we love her and how much we'll miss her. She shook her head "yes" to it all. We knew she understood. With everything turned off, she was gone within 10 minutes. Her doctor placed his stethoscope on her chest and pronounced her passing. People talk about the peace and calm they feel as a loved one passes away. I know and understand that feeling now. Such a tender, emotional moment but also a comforting peace. Brady handled it okay, I could tell he was just processing. Elise was quite emotional. Nate and I took turns hugging her. We knew we would need to sit down with them and talk about this experience and their feelings.
Our family stayed in the room for a while, talking about what's next, what to do. Wendy wanted her body donated to the University of Utah Medical School. Dustin knew the right paperwork to get and worked on that.
Eventually we all ended up at Dan and Rosemary's house where we talked about funeral plans, wrote up the obituary and spent time absorbing what had just happened.
It was getting late in the evening so we all decided it was time to go home. Jenny and I stopped at Wendy's townhome to make sure her cat was okay (Nate's brother, Bret, decided to take the cat home) and to see if there was anything else we needed to take care of. With the exception of a few minor things, all was well. From there we went home.
Once home, Nate and I sat the kids down for a talk. We talked about our experience. We talked about our beliefs and where we feel Wendy is now. We helped them to understand she's no longer suffering and in pain. We then talked about death, it's not scary. Brady had some questions but Elise just sat there listening. We know there will be more questions in the next several days. I worried it was a bad decision to bring the kids into Wendy's ICU room and be there as she passed away. Would they be scared? Would they have nightmares? Would it be disturbing to them? After we talked, I no longer felt that way. Just as I felt comfort and peace after she passed, I felt the same after we talked with them.
Saturday, July 16th--From sad to happy at the end of this week! Brady's sweet Kindergarten teacher, Cindy Sorensen, was married this weekend. She 
and Matt look very happy and very much in love. We attended their reception in Alpine. She is a very beautiful bride and is GLOWING! It was also a reunion--many of her Kindergarten students came with their families. Brady got to see some of his friends. We're so happy for her and Matt. They are a cute couple! Congrats to the Anderson's!
Tuesday, July 12th--Last night was Wendy's viewing. It was held at the funeral home. Because she requested her body be donated to the U of U Medical Center, a casket was rented and she was dressed and "presented" just as if she was being buried. We set up 
a few tables full of various things in remembrance of Wendy. We were amazed at how many people had sent or brought flowers. They were so beautiful! Along with the flowers sent by Nate's company, we were touched to see flowers sent by my parents and my sister, Alishia. My other sister, Amanda, wanted to send something different so she did a huge chocolate chip cookie with a beautiful Hawaiian saying on it. Something our family requested, via her obituary, was that in lieu of flowers, donations be made to the Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation. We were so happy and grateful a few people had made donations to the JDRF in her name. 
Wendy looked so beautiful. During the day, Rosemary, Jenny and our SIL, Marissa, had gone to the funeral home to dress her, do her make-up and hair. They all did a great job! She even looked like she was smiling, in a way. We greeted many family, friends and her co-workers. We were told 
her passing was such a shock to her co-workers, grief counselors needed to be brought in. She was such a huge asset to the company she worked for. We would see co-workers come in their scrubs, straight from work, just to see if what they heard had been real. They would look at her and leave in tears. It was heartbreaking to watch. The day before she passed away she had done some work in the morning. 
look at her for a moment then he would leave. He did this several times. At one point she asked him to come over to her. She asked why he kept going up to Wendy, look at her, and then walk away again. He told her whenever he went up to her she would talk to him. He couldn't see her lips move but he could hear her voice. Jenny asked what Wendy told him. He said she would say, "I love you, Brady!" Of course this got me emotional! But I am so thankful he had those special moments and I pray he remembers them for the rest of his life. 
night before. Fifteen minutes before the funeral began, we closed off the room from visitors and it was just her family. Her casket was closed and Nate's brother, Dustin, said a beautiful prayer. I had held it together quite well up until then. From then on it was waterworks the rest of the funeral. We escorted her casket to the chapel where beautiful words and music were expressed on her behalf. 
brothers and the two oldest nephews, took her casket to the foyer for the men from the funeral home to take her back. This part had many of us break down. Elise and Kayla cried uncontrollably, which broke many hearts. It took some time to be calm and 
composed again. We were blessed to have a luncheon provided by ward members. It was a delicious spread of ham, funeral potatos, salads, rolls and desserts. After we were full, Dustin had each of us be videotaped remembering some fond memories we personally had of Wendy. 
funeral. Our family happily accepted the idea. Rosemary wanted us to launch the balloons from a special place in the hills above their house. Her other request was that they be pink, since that was Wendy's favorite 
color. I ordered 2 dozen balloons in various colors of pink. We picked them up before the funeral. The various pink colors together were breathtaking--so gorgeous! We all made our way up to Rosemary's special spot. Everyone got a balloon, even the little ones. Together we all said "We love you and miss you Wendy!", then they were launched. Just as the experience at my grandma's funeral, it was an amazing thing to watch those balloons rise up. It was a very long time before we couldn't see them anymore. The sky was blue with a few clouds. The clouds made it easier to see the balloons even when they were so far up in the sky. Many of our frowns turned to smiles 
watching those balloons. 
We went back to Dan and Rosemary's house afterwards. We all relaxed for a while. Along with the many snacks and meals sent from gracious neighbors, I also broke open the large cookie my sister sent. We nibbled and munched for a while then decided to head home. We took home the beautiful flowers from Nate's company and my family. We also took the spray of flowers that was on Wendy's casket. I volunteered to dry all the gorgeous pink roses on the spray so everyone could have some preserved as a remembrance.
Friday, July 8th--The company Nate works for has always been so supportive and kind when it comes to our family. They've sent flowers, balloons and other fun stuff when both of our children were born. They sent flowers when I had surgery shortly after Elise was born. They sent Brady a bunch of HUGE balloons when he was diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes. Everything sent came with cards filled with beautiful sentiments. Wendy's passing was no exception. Today this gorgeous flower arrangement came. It was beyond touching to know they cared and the card that came with the flowers said it all. The roses are so fragrant, you can smell them across the room. They brighten what is such a sad time. I plan to dry some of the roses.
(LONG POST) Thursday, July 7th--Nate's sister, Wendy, passed away today. She was 1 month away from turning 38. This was so unexpected and so very tragic. Wendy has had health problems for quite some time. Like Brady, she also suffered with Type 1 Diabetes. It was difficult for her to manage and with that disease came many other problems with her body. In the last several years, it seemed she had many close calls, spending time in the hospital, but always managed to get better. 
Tuesday, July 5th--We had a great time with Nate's sister, Jenny and 2 of her kids, Quinn & Kayla at Seven Peaks Water Park. Just like us, she and her family have what's called "The Pass of all Passes". It is an annual pass that admits us into various attractions in Utah County. It includes passes to a minor league baseball team and basketball team, 2 amusement park
s and this water park. We intend to use this pass quite a bit this summer, especially at this incredibly fun water park! Several of our neighbor friends have got the passes too, we've already spent some time here with them and we LOVED it!
them! It was a great day for everyone! We ended our adventure with a trip to JCW's for dinner and ice cream--always a tasty bonus!
Monday, July 4th--As usual, our neighborhood 4th of July party is AWESOME!!!! I plan it every year with a few friends. We send out invites, plan activities and food assignments. The past few years have gotten kind of pricey in the way of games, prizes, etc. This year we decided to tone it down a bit and make it nice and simple. It worked out great! Some of our fabulous neighbors decided to rent a dunk tank and that became quite a highlight! Even Nate got 
up there! Brady took a turn as well, with life jacket on. This year was more about mingling and getting to know each other better. We had a huge turn out and I think everyone that attended can say they had a great time! As always, we ended with fireworks. Everyone brings their own and it's usually the men (pyros--ha ha ha!) that take on the lighting of the fireworks. Our evening ended with cleaning up and then crashing into bed. Such a fun day and we love celebrating our nations Independence with our wonderful friends and neighbors!
